After years of worrying what everyone else thought, I made a surprising discovery: most people are too busy dealing with their own lives to pay much attention to mine. Oddly enough, that's one of the most freeing things I've ever learned.
Tag: grief
Sorting Through the Wreckage
After a difficult weekend at a family graduation, I found myself reflecting on loss, isolation, disability, and the life I thought I'd be living. Sometimes being left to your own devices isn't loneliness—it's freedom.
So What Are You Doing to Fix It?
Sometimes the biggest changes aren't visible. A memory from the Army, a lesson from Burning Man, and the realities of stroke recovery led me to a simple question: after all the complaining, what are you actually doing to fix it?
“The Expiration Date on Sympathy”
The hardest part of grief isn’t always the catastrophe itself. Sometimes it’s realizing the world quietly resumes while you’re still standing in the wreckage trying to understand what survived.