Do you fat shame people?  Be honest you are sitting having lunch and see a larger person ordering.  Your first comment is______?  If you said anything, it should be, wow what a delicious looking meal otherwise keep your damn mouth shut.  Someone walking down the street should be congratulated on the effort instead of their level of Rubenesque.  If you are a healthcare provider, you seriously need to look at what you are saying to overweight patients.

If you are a provider, you better damn sure be qualified to make that observation and provide reasonable medical advice on the condition based on facts.  You need to shut up and listen to your patient and their response.  Often this is a life long thing, and they have struggled through it.  If you are not a medical practitioner, what sensible advice are you going to give? Are you willing to shut up when the patient is not interested?  I was told by a patient about a psychiatrist berating them because they are larger, but not an insanely fat patient, about their weight, while dealing with an entirely different matter.  When she asked him to move on, he “talked over me.” What do you hope to accomplish?  Or are you just be an ass because you can?

Your treatment plan will never work if the patient is not a part of it and it is your job to ensure success in the program that you decide.  The patient may have tried everything and may be doing the right things, but just can’t lose weight. If you’re a psychiatrist, maybe you should spend time with mental health.

Look the plain of it is that everyone has a different body and some are just heavier or even fat.  People who are overweight deserve help, not shame.  Their labs, blood pressure, and eating habits may be better than yours.

If you are overweight or feel overweight, your provider should have many productive resources in their court to help you regain and maintain reasonable weight and health habits. Simple.  The next bit really sends me through the roof.

You aren’t disabled…From WaPo

Militants in southern Afghanistan had already salted the earth with bombs when Sgt. Dominic Esquibel led his Marines through Sangin. On his final patrol, the ground ruptured under his feet in an explosion of light and blood. The blast tore at his right arm and shattered parts of his right leg and foot. “I thank God it was me,” he told author Bing West from a hospital bed in 2011, “rather than one of my men.”

Doctors were barely able to salvage Esquibel’s foot. He wears a carbon-fiber exoskeleton brace to help him walk and run.

And that vulnerable spot is where Esquibel said a U.S. Park Ranger gave swift kicks during an arrest over a parking space for the disabled at Sequoia National Park in 2012, prompting a lawsuit claiming assault and false arrest.

Parrack (the cop) threatened to throw Esquibel to the ground and said he was under arrest. He contorted Esquibel’s stiff and scarred arm — which had just been operated on a few months before the trip — as his wife watched.

Then Parrack kicked Esquibel’s feet to separate his legs. Esquibel grimaced in agony, shouting about his war injury as his wife cried out. He couldn’t spread his legs any farther and trying to balance himself only prompted the ranger to kick him more, he said.

“I told my wife to remove herself and get in the car,” he said, “so at least there would be a witness to hold him accountable.”

When Esquibel said that to his wife, Parrack stopped to question what he meant. Esquibel reeled in pain.

“I’m combat wounded, and you’re kicking my salvaged limb,” Esquibel said he told Parrack, whose partner stood nearby.

Parrack pulled up Esquibel’s jeans leg to reveal the brace. As he did so, his partner muttered an expletive, indicating they knew they had messed up, according to Esquibel.

So now thanks to that officer’s ignorance and assumption a man has an amputation.  An amputation of a leg saved on a combat veteran, who was awarded the Navy Cross.  That is the highest Naval honor below the Congressional Medal of Honor. You have no business assuming of someone’s condition or “diagnosing” them because you think they are not disabled.  I must write those letters and fill out those forms.  Trust me we go through the wringer every time we write one, and I will tell you I do not write one lightly. You are not qualified to assume anything.  If you are pissed about not getting “primo” parking maybe remember the fact that Sgt Esquibel took a hit from a grenade perhaps you could cut him some slack?

Be kind to others, please.  The world is crazy enough without you being a jackass