When the Lies Outlive the Liar

I mentioned writer’s block yesterday, and here’s why: I’ve been chewing on how to talk about this without sounding mean-spirited or like I’m slinging mud for the sake of it. The problem is, when the truth itself is ugly, there’s only so much you can do to make it sound polite. And honestly? I’m not …

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The Tangled Knot

Well, isn’t that just lovely? I managed to hit some mystery key sequence that deleted the work I’d already started on this post. Given my current streak of writer’s block, maybe that’s a blessing in disguise. Or maybe it’s just another opportunity to stare at the blinking cursor and mutter expletives at my laptop.   …

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Amends?

I wondered why I constantly feel like I have to apologize for everything. To be honest, it’s annoying to me—and I imagine it's annoying to others, too. Turns out, according to actual research (remember when that was a thing?), the constant urge to apologize can come from several sources: low self-esteem, fear of conflict, and …

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The Weight of Regret (and a Little Therapy)

I guess the morning’s first lesson is this: therapy isn’t the worst thing you can do. I know that sounds like a commercial for BetterHelp, but hear me out—therapy can help you untangle why you feel the way you do about something. More importantly, it can help uncover what’s really underneath that feeling.   Let’s …

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