Thirty-five years after being sexually assaulted while serving in Kuwait, I find myself asking a question that society still seems reluctant to answer: Why are we so concerned about protecting the futures of those accused of sexual violence while overlooking the futures of those who survive it?
Protecting children is important. Legislating adult morality under that banner is something entirely different—and it's a distinction worth remembering.
When conversations about sexual assault reach the public stage, they tend to follow a predictable pattern. Names are named. Opinions are shouted. Arguments are had about guilt, innocence, and politics. What gets lost—almost every time—are the people who were harmed. Survivors are not waiting for outrage.They are waiting for care. Being a survivor doesn’t end …
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When we focus on naming perpetrators instead of caring for survivors, we miss the point entirely. This is not about spectacle—it’s about power, trauma, and the people forced to live with it every day.
